Monday, May 10, 2010

Dealing with Disappointment

I know life can't always be happy and honky dory. I know that things don't always work out how we want them to and I even know that not everyone is happy ever day of their life but somehow I don't know how to deal with disappointment. Early this  year I got a really great offer for something that I wanted to do and then today I found out that now I'm not going to get what I was promised and the terms and conditions of the original offer have drastically changed. 

I'm waiting on my husband to come home to get his input into the whole thing and I even emailed my best friend who is living in London at the moment to get her advice but at the end of the day I still can't get this feeling of disappointment to vanish. At times like this I feel to eat a nice slice of chocolate cake or a sinful piece of cheesecake with a glass of delicious Coca-Cola....... and I don't mean Coca-Cola Zero which I am forcing myself to drink (it actually taste good though) as my attempt to not put on the extra calories that is found in just about any and everything on the face of this earth! 

So how do you guys deal with disappointment? I think maybe it's time for me to come up with a life plan or something! I am so unsure as to what my future holds! My husband job does not allow for any future plans.. be it in one week time or one  year or even five years time! For instance, if we plan a trip.... without any notice and up to the morning when we have to leave for our flight.. there is always the possibility of his company changing our plans! So how are we supposed to plan our future when we don't even know how long we will be here in Brazil or where next we will be? Ooooohh I know I'm taking out my frustrations on my blog but isn't that one of the great things about blogging? Getting to rant and rave about what's on my mind?

Okay so hope you guys are having a better day than I am having. 


nadie said...

Lee, dealing with disappointment is something that, cause of my life experiences, I have come to understand in an intimate way.

Steve Job (founder of Apple) said “you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future”. This resonates strongly with me! I truly believe all the circumstances and events of our lives, even the ppl we meet are all aligned perfectly! If this is true, then there is never a reason to worry! Cause all is unfolding as it should and in perfect timing...all that we are meant to do is have that faith that we are worthy of achieving all our dreams and ambitions cause we were all born equally!

So when we feel sad cause something may not have worked out in the way we were hoping, it may have actually gone exactly as it should…we just have to have a broader perspective about it all. Cause for me, when this happens, my desire for, and will to achieve that thing grows even stronger! I want the perfect job more, the happy relationship more, I want that new camera more lol

Now this is the tricky bit…depending on how I focus, determines the outcome! If I’m focused on the fact that I was disappointed and that thing still hasn’t come to me..or what am I doing wrong, why hasn’t it come, I’m not worthy etc..then not only do I feel terrible and depressed, but that thing just never seems to come!

On the other hand, if I look at it from the Steve Job’s (and many other successful ppl’s) perspective…that, this only happened cause something even better than I could even imagine is on the horizon..then boom, I feel inspired to be somewhere, or send that CV, or make that call, or start that gym membership …….it all just appears so effortlessly! I just become more intuitive to make decisions that somehow line me up to that thing I’ve been wanting!

Steve Job spoke about how attending a calligraphy class in college, that, at the time, he thought was completely daft...has strangely impacted on some of his leading edge creations!

All is well! After all, the bible did say..Ask and it is Given! Ent?

Leandraluv said...

Ent? Nadie you sound like you are a Trini :-) You should start your own blog.. you have very inspirational things to share!

I haven't dealt with the disappointment and I did realize that things do happen for a reason and it happened just as God intended. If it wasn't for that (which I originally saw as a setback) I would not be able to do some of the things I have planned for July and maybe August. Now I have the time and I am happy for that! Thanks for once again..the inspiring advice.

nadie said...

trini to the bone ;)

lol, err..i'm def not a writer like you lee! but i do luv to take pics :)

someone told me to do sometin i luv each day i've been posting a photo that i took that makes me smile :)

nadie said...

lol..just realised, you're in one of the pic i posted lol..

check it out

Leandraluv said...

Oh my hands! Nadie you never told me you had a blog.. it's cool - I was going to tell you to do that and show your daily pictures! K I;ll see if I can sign up to follow it.

nadie said...

lol, i wouldn't really call it a blog!it just gives me the opportunity to do that thing i like to do everyday :)

Like you hugging Niv everyday!

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